10 reasons to consider F2F psychotherapy instead of via Skype.

Psychotherapy is increasingly available in different forms. Traditional face-to-face work now stands alongside Skype and telephone counselling. A qualified psychotherapist can make all of these work, but what might the benefits be of working with a psychotherapist in the same room?

  1. Shared space
    What is communicated verbally is only a small part of what we communicate to one another when we occupy the same physical space. Some of this information is lost if meetings occur online or by phone. We are adaptable and can communicate using whatever means we have available, but face-to-face provides more information to work with.
  2. Hiding
    We can use  communication to keep parts of us hidden, and we can do this consciously or unconsciously. A psychotherapy may pick up signals that this is happening much sooner if they can see the communication in front of them.
  3. The weekly journey
    The journey to and from therapy provides important preparation and reflection time. When we switch off our Skype session or put down the phone, we risk being caught up immediately in the distractions of our everyday life. Taking time to reflect on our therapy sessions leads to us to better reflect on our lives in general.
  4. Sharing space
    Sharing a space with a psychotherapist can reveal much about how we share space with other people in your life. Are we overly compliant or overly demanding? This can become apparent in the way we occupy shared space.
  5. Committing time and money
    The time committed  to get to and from your psychotherapy session, is time spent committed to yourself outside of your everyday life. Your are making more effort to look after yourself than you are by sitting by your computer or phone.
  6. Getting under the surface
    Face-to-face work leads to you having a deeper relationship with what is going on beneath your surface, to all the unconscious material that is part of you, your hidden attitudes and disguises. The way we negotiate between our vulnerability and our surface defences can become one of the most useful areas of work in psychotherapy. Mediated by technology, the full range of ‘content’ we exhibit to other human beings can be lost.
  7. Security to let go
    There are benefits to being in secure, neutral therapy room. You can be sure that no-one will interrupt you, and can feel safer to start letting down your defences and revealing your vulnerability and confusions.
  8. Watching yourself
    Being in a room with a psychotherapist who is totally present for you. who can look into your eyes and reflect back to you what they see, will over time lead you to find yourself more present to yourself. The screen will much dilute this effect.
  9. Investing
    Physically handing over session fees is arguably an experience of seeing yourself investing in your internal experience, in a way that clicking on online payment button can’t match. This is a subtle distinction but perhaps an important one.
  10. Emotional feedback
    The feedback we get from another person when we say something that moves them, touches as as well. We feel ourselves responding to their reactions to us. Over time our identity becomes increasingly linked to our feelings and not just our thoughts, and we feel more centred and relaxed, somehow more comfortable in our own skin.